Why We Can’t Do It All {and how that’s a good thing!}

dsc_7176First I’d like to thank Liz and Angie for giving me the opportunity to be a guest blogger. I know both of them from our bible study group for medical and dental wives (and what is the chance that we are all from Ohio ?!) Seriously a small world!

Ok onto the post….

If responsibility is good then more responsibility must be better. If busyness is good then more busyness is better. If structure is good, then more structure must be better. Aren’t these thoughts a trap the world tells us we need to feel fulfilled? 

I’ve always been the type of person to try to please everyone, and do what is asked of me.

I’m the type of person who will say “yes” when I should say “no” and take on additional responsibilities for fear of letting others down.

Anyone else relate?

In the past two years I’ve really been on a journey of self-awareness (you can read about that journey here) and one thing that I’ve learned along the way is that we have underlying beliefs about ourselves that guide our behavior, and as a result the reality we construct becomes our perception and becomes the “lens” in which we view each situation. 

I’m getting ahead of myself, though. Let’s go back and look at what the bible says about “burdens” in terms of taking on responsibilities in the kingdom and also taking on emotional burdens.

Responsibilities in the Kingdom

I serve at my church as a small group leader and a care minister. If someone were to ask me to serve on the technical team or (heaven forbid) in the praise band I would have to say no.

Not because I don’t want to help out. Not because I am looking out for my own interests, but because neither one of these roles (singer or tech help) use my God given gifts and talents.

The bible talks about how we all work together using our different gifts to be the body of Christ.

“Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ.  For we were all baptized by one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink. Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many.” 1: Corinthians 12:12-14

So each of us has a “part to play” in the body of Christ.

“Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it. And God has placed in the church first of all apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, of helping, of guidance, and of different kinds of tongues.  Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? Do all have gifts of healing? Do all speak in tongues? Do all interpret?  Now eagerly desire the greater gifts.” 1: Corinthians 12:27-3135696dea9372b97c7e0addf8433b496c

When Paul talks about all of the spiritual gifts we have, he recognizes that each one works together to fulfill the greater mission. However, sometimes we get caught up in doing it all, that we may very well say yes to something that doesn’t use our gifts. And in turn, this robs someone of the chance to use their gifts as a blessing.

Sure I can head that up (I’m not much of an organizer but I have a little time to do that)

Sure I can make something (I’m not creative but I’ll try)

Am I saying that we should never try to do something outside of our comfort zone? Absolutely not, personal and spiritual growth only take place outside of your comfort zone.boss-fight-free-high-quality-stock-images-photos-photography-woman-overlook-forest

What I am saying is, don’t be afraid to delegate tasks that aren’t your strong suit. You never know who you might bless by giving them an opportunity to advance the kingdom of God by using their own unique talents.

I’m not good at math so I’m not going to volunteer as a treasurer for the clubs I’m in.

I dislike the stress of having to coordinate things, so I am not going to volunteer to organize a charity event.

Instead, I will step out of the way so someone can step into the role they were made to fill.

This is why it is ok to accept help. This is why it is ok to ask for help.

Know your strengths. Know what you enjoy doing and what you don’t enjoy doing. Know what fills you up and what depletes you. If you are interested in learning more about your spiritual gifts, this is a great tool that I use myself and with my clients to help discover them. (giftstest.com)

And as for the emotional burdens, hop on over to my blog to read about how community with each other can lessen emotional burdens.

Sweet friends, thanks so much for reading, I truly believe that each of us was created with a specific purpose in the kingdom of God. I encourage you to allow others to bless you with their gifts, just as I encourage you to bless others with your gifts!

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Blessings,

Stephanie


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